The basic model of Compassionate Communication is simple, but life changing. The practice, particularly helped by studying with a group, illuminates our habitual, often unhelpful, patterns of thinking and communicating so that we are able to consciously choose ways of interacting that connect us deeply and compassionately with ourselves and each other. We learn to observe without evaluating, identify, express and take responsibility for our feelings and needs, and to make clear requests. We learn that the power of empathy is what makes violence not only unnecessary, but a poor strategy for getting our needs met. “...every relationship in your life -- with family or friends, co-workers, students, teachers, even with yourself -- has the potential for positive, permanent transformation” (Lucy Leu).